this blog posting today, has taken me a few days. why you may ask? well, because it's not like my normal "in the life" posting. this has taken me days to find references, definitions, all while being sicker than a dog in real life. so please, i hope that you see something out of all of this and the stuff i use to back up my mind. below won't be a final draft, it will be a bit sloppy and will have what goes through my mind when i read these things, take them into account, etc.
even though these statements of MY OPINION are followed by quotes, they are MY OPINION and if you don't like MY opinion, leave and please do not cause a fuss. Though, they have some major points. Of course i am halfway talking about the RL scene and the RP scene, hopefully the line between the two are clear enough for you to decipher.
first we have the quotes i promised, please read them over CAREFULLY AND COMPREHEND THEM before reading what i got from these quotes, my real life experiences and my brain that can think well for it's self!
now, i will start with the RL gor part, as this part isn't always BTB (by the book) but lifestylers try to live the Gorean Lifestyle as best they can and still live on earth (sorry if that sounded wrong to you, it sounds right to me in my head at least. Goreans basically on earth teehee) and well, even in the BDSM world, a Master/Mistress' personal slave won't be shared in RL easily. so i believe in RL that it is more "tighter" of circumstances. I've been in a few BDSM RL situations, and from all i have seen (some of them also being gorean) the slaves aren't often shared from person to person, they are normally restricted.
now, towards the more RP and online slavery part. Most of the time, i do see restricted girls. they aren't "restricted" like they are supposed to be in the books, but it is still respected that if you post in your profile "restricted red silk" that that means that you have had sex, and you are restricted, please no penetrating me. and if you tell a gorean Master in RL that you are restricted and you obviously have an owner, i would hope that he would respect your owner's wishes and not lay a finger close to your special parts. but online i play an unrestricted bond, i try to live this role out in RL as much as i can, but sometimes it is a bit difficult, i make it through and serve my Jarl and please him and all is well. :)
now, some quotes and my personal notes on what i believe they mean to ME (i will post my opinion in green and in parentheses)
"His guests, uncontrolled in their desire, driven half mad with passion, will mightily envy him his girl. Perhaps he, in Gorean hospitality, will share her with them, but, in the end, when they have gone, it is at the foot of his own couch that she, licking and kissing, and begging, will be chained." (this doesn't mean to dang gone much to me, and i can't explain it further than, occasionally if one were to have guests, he might share his girl with them and sometimes he wouldn't.)
iron belts, to prevent her penetration without the master's permission (i believe that this means that an iron belt means only that the girl is not to be touched with that belt on or near impossible to touch with such a thing on and her owner would have the lock i assume.)
"Too, more than once one of the guards at the house had angrily tested the security of the iron belt on me, and then, finding it secure, had thrust me from him, then taking another girl in hand, one not in such a belt, for the satisfaction of his fierce needs."( girls not belted were for the pleasure of the free, men especially.)
"You were merely utilized by a casual passer-by." I said. Such things, incidentally, are not that unusual with female slaves, particularly if they are put out, without an iron belt, in effect for the taking" (it was not weird to have someone come up grab you, and use you if you aren't wearing such a belt.)
"Unauthorized uses of female slaves are almost always by free men. they have little, or nothing, to fear, for the girls are only slaves. The masters, if they are concerned about such things, may put the girls in the iron belt, particularly if they are sending them on late errands, or into disreputable neighborhoods." (if the owner really cares if his girl is restricted or not sexually, he would have belted her. if the girl is going into an area the owner does not trust, she will often be belted just in case.)
now, this is the definitions i have found
: something that restricts: as
a : a regulation that restricts or restrains <restrictions for hunters>
b : a limitation on the use or enjoyment of property or a facility2
: an act of restricting : the condition of being restricted
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a : an act of restraining : the state of being restrained
b (1) : a means of restraining : a restraining force or influence(2) : a device that restricts movement <a restraint for children riding in cars>2
: a control over the expression of one's emotions or thoughts(definitions from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary)
to sum it up,
there was not many restrictions BTB except for the biggest and most talked about, sexual restriction.
what do i think personally of being "belted"?
-Even though I am not belted, my Jarl has told me that if someone i know in Secondlife wishes to use me and I have had a bad past with them, go back home or hit the big red "X" button.
-It limits how you can serve (especially in the northern ways)
one quote that I found that backs that up quite well is : "In the north, my pretty maids," Ivar assured them, "the burdens you carry will be more prosaic, bundles of wood for the fires, buckets of water for the hall, baskets of dung for the fields." They looked at him with horror understanding then what the nature of their life would be. And at night, of course, they would server the feasts of their masters,carrying and filling the great the horns, and delighting them with the softness of their bodies in the furs. Marauders....chapter 3
- I personally don't like being restricted. because then sometimes being restricted limits how far you can tease a man in RP and I don't like that. I like being able to tease the shit out of them and being dragged to the furs (but maybe that is just me)
- I don't think I can find the particular quote but I do remember that somewhere in Marauders of Gor, there was something along the lines that said that bonds worked hard during the day time and then went to serve the Jarls at night and were often shared among the village or something along those lines.
- I know it says "my Jarl" but still,I believe that it pertains to all free... "The bond-maid, Olga, laughing and kicking, thrown helplessly over the shoulder of an oarsman, was carried past. I saw several of the bond-maids in the arms of Ivar's men. Among them, too, some trying to resist, were the new girls. One, who had irritated an oarsman, her hands held, was beaten, crying out, with his belt. Released, she began to kiss him, weeping, trying to please him. Men laughed. Another of the new girls was thrown over one of the benches; she lay on her back; her head was down, her dark hair, long wild, was in the dirt and reeds, strewn on the floor of the hall; her head twisted from side to side; her eyes were close her lips were parted; I saw her teeth.""Do not stop, ~ Jarl," she begged. "Your bond-maid begs you not to stop! ~Marauders of Gor, pg. 108"
to sum this all up, depending on if you are a Lifestyler, a RP-er or a BTB person, the "restrictions" for slaves differ greatly. i hope that you enjoyed what took me a while to put together, the idea might be a bit messy and loose but i'm telling you, it is there!
